My mom did everything for us, including teaching us how to do our own freaking laundry and how to prepare food. My peers who had it all done for them had no idea how to operate when they moved out. It does not have to be so. If it is, it is either cos the dad is not good at being part of the team, at being a good partner and not doing his part in the family or cos the mother wants the situation to be the way it is. It’s not my partner’s duty to prepare dinner, it’s ours. It’s not her duty to keep the house clean, it’s ours. And it’s definitely not her duty to raise our son, it’s us. We live together, we both work, the Disney Belle Beauty and the Beast motorcycle shirt is ours and we live in it together. Our son is of both of us, not just hers. Everything is our responsibility. Obviously, there will be individual chors… But it is us. Not she and me.